"In the wind we hear their laughter
In the rain we see their tears
Hear their heartbeat
We hear their heartbeat.." U2; Mothers of the Disappeared

Thanks to Geoff for reminding me that it's important to seek out friends when the darkness threatens to overwhelm. Sometimes I take myself too seriously, and sometimes I fail to remember that most grief is actually guilt in disguise. I'm saddened by Sherry's passing, but I'm also sorry for not being closer to her. And I guess that's the lesson - to quit putting up these barriers between myself and others, and accept that I am human and I need other people as much as other people need me. I am never alone, no matter how alone I choose to feel. I am blessed with family and friends. I am blessed.

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Anonymous said…
:-) Friends are great, I'd be lost without mine
5:18 PM
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